Mistakes I Made So You Don’t Have To: Advice for the Young and Everybody Else, Part One

Regret has an undeservedly bad reputation. Sure, regret can be malignant sometimes, but in its more benign forms, it’s a sign that you know more now than you once did. All grown-ups have regrets as they look back and see the follies of their youth. If someone tells you he has no regrets, steer clear […]

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At Home in a World of Terror: First Thoughts on the Paris Attacks

While innocents were being slaughtered in Paris, my wife and I were preparing for a night out. By the time we arrived at our destination, a quaint bed and breakfast in the Ohio woods, more than 100 Parisians were dead. We stowed our bags in our room and returned to the lobby. A few minutes […]

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Stop Playing it Safe: Dating Advice for Young Men

The reason you’re lonely is that you act like a coward. You look for ways to skirt difficulties. You avoid challenges, especially when it comes to establishing relationships with women. I get it. You don’t want her to say no. You don’t want her to reject you, to leave you home alone wondering what’s wrong […]

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Reflections on a Ballroom Floor: What I Learned from Dance Class

Slow. Slow. Quick-quick. This formulation sticks in my head more than anything I’ve learned in the weeks of ballroom dance lessons my wife signed us up for. That’s good, since these four steps are the cornerstone of the dances we’ve studied. We’ve learned to foxtrot. We’ve learned to waltz. We learned the meringue. All of […]

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Don’t Be Afraid to Have Standards: Dating Advice for Young Women

Dear Ladies, You are not as clever as you think you are. You think you’re hiding your struggle well, but you’re not. And, though you think no one sees, we do. You’re in a tough spot, and I want to tell you why. THE PROBLEM The degeneration of our culture has given rise to some […]

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Should Wives Work Outside the Home?

  The question of whether women should work outside the home confuses a lot of people. A recent twitter conversation made this clear. A friend put this question to me and seemed to expect a simple yes or no, the kind of response suited to a 140-character medium. But, simple answers to questions that already […]

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