If She Complains About Your Gift

As a man, you’re sure to be a disappointment. If you’re human, it’s unavoidable. Living up to all the expectations others have of you is impossible. Learning to disappoint people well is part of growing up. Disappointing people well sometimes means letting others know when their expectations are unreasonable or selfish. Kendra at A Proverbs […]

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Where I’m Coming From: Five Influences On My Thinking

We think we write only to communicate to others, but that is largely wrong. Sure, we want to connect, to tell others something about the world as we see it. But, we write just as much to discover those neglected bits of our own selves buried beneath the layers of scattered thoughts and other detritus […]

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Just Say No: Dating Advice for Young Women

Ladies, Sometimes you have to declare where you stand. This might not be easy for you. Saying unambiguously what you do or don’t want requires being open. Saying yes or no to anything leaves you vulnerable. If you can’t get comfortable with that, things are going to be tougher for you than necessary. This is […]

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The Book that Saved My Life

As a scared and confused 20–something, I needed help. I had floundered the first few years of college, achieving significantly below my academic potential. I enjoyed being with people, but was riddled with anxieties about relationships and about my value in the eyes of others. When I was in public I behaved in ways I […]

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