Icons of Mature Masculinity: Tom Magnum

This is the first in an occasional series of posts looking at characters from popular culture who exemplify the ideals of  mature masculinity. If you have ideas for characters who would work for this series email me at dean@deanabbott.com or tweet me @deanabbott. Tom Magnum is not what he seems. On the surface, he’s a […]

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How to Get Ready to Die: Thoughts on “These Final Hours”

Everyone wonders what he would do if he only had a year to live. Doing so can be an interesting thought experiment. The usual result is that people think they would make changes, live more deeply, take more risks. Then, everyone just goes back to living the way he had been before. Such hypothetical situations […]

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Character is the Capacity for Happiness

The last thing unhappy people want to hear is that they are responsible for their happiness. This is, in large part, why they are unhappy. When we are unhappy, it is often because we imagine ourselves powerless. Things aren’t right and we think we can’t fix them. We focus on what we don’t have. We […]

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Is It Wrong to Want to Be Famous? A Response to Tessa Violet

Everybody is a little bit famous today. The age of social media and 24/7 communication has ushered in the age of the micro-celebrity, people with online audiences that, while smaller than a movie star’s, can still be quite substantial. Tessa Violet is one of these micro-celebrities. A vlogger and musician, she has accumulated more than […]

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Book Review: How a Man Faces Adversity by Robert Hicks

People say difficulty is part of life and that’s true. It is even more true to say that difficulty is most of life. Even our best moments have some difficult and unpleasant aspects. Unpleasant circumstances are so common that it is fair to say they make up a large segment of the fabric of life, […]

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Why Men And Women Can’t Be Friends

The answer to the question of whether heterosexual men and women can be friends is more complicated than either Harry or Sally could have imagined. This is because they are both right. The trouble is that Sally’s yes is correct at only a shallow level. At important, deeper levels Harry’s no is right. I once […]

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