Great essay that describes many things I have discovered in my many years as a single man in America.
“We’ve been taught that speaking directly about what we hope for is a surefire guarantee we won’t get it.”
I have encountered staggering silence many times when I asked American women to casually share their marriage and family future goals.
A mature approach would be to share this information in a clear way but alas the immature approach of pretending marriage “happens when it happens” with little planning is the norm.
"The unpopular truth of this matter is that a woman who cannot handle a man’s full self, can’t love her partner even when he is sad is not a mature adult."
Extrapolating further, "a man's full self" also includes the times when he is angry, irritated, and the rest of the spectrum of *negative* emotions. Of course, the same is true for loving a woman, whose "full self" has the same possible range of emotions.
Great article, it sounds like the woman in the tweet loves the man for what he can provide and not for who he is.
(I tried to leave a follow-up comment on YouTube channel 'A Male Space' but they keep disappearing so I'll read the articles here and comment where I can add something.)
writing an entire substack essay in response to my ragebait tweet that I made up to pay my taxes is very funny ngl
Great.
Ultimately she didn’t escape the charge of immaturity, she just confirmed it through other means. The post is still apposite
Really interesting essay. Thank you for this!
Do you think it was needed?
Great essay that describes many things I have discovered in my many years as a single man in America.
“We’ve been taught that speaking directly about what we hope for is a surefire guarantee we won’t get it.”
I have encountered staggering silence many times when I asked American women to casually share their marriage and family future goals.
A mature approach would be to share this information in a clear way but alas the immature approach of pretending marriage “happens when it happens” with little planning is the norm.
Im afraid that's true
"The unpopular truth of this matter is that a woman who cannot handle a man’s full self, can’t love her partner even when he is sad is not a mature adult."
Extrapolating further, "a man's full self" also includes the times when he is angry, irritated, and the rest of the spectrum of *negative* emotions. Of course, the same is true for loving a woman, whose "full self" has the same possible range of emotions.
"Something in the cultural and emotional upbringing of these women prevents them from suffering the disillusionment that real love requires"
Yes, something. Perhaps it begins with an F and ends with 'ism?'
My short story https://nimnim1.substack.com/p/poly-hell
Great article, it sounds like the woman in the tweet loves the man for what he can provide and not for who he is.
(I tried to leave a follow-up comment on YouTube channel 'A Male Space' but they keep disappearing so I'll read the articles here and comment where I can add something.)